Grief is the most difficult of all the emotions to resolve.
There are many layers to grief and time and again you’ll hear practitioners comment that grief is the most difficult of all the emotions to resolve. Here are some tips for tapping through the pain of grief. Of course when you can’t work through it after an appropriate amount of time, it’s time to seek assistance.
Tap on the sadness you feel at certain times of the year or special events or activities you no longer share with your loved one.
Tap on anger/sadness/guilt over unresolved conflicts and unfinished business with the person who passed.
Tap on the feeling you are experiencing about insensitive things people say such as, “She’d want you to move on with your life”. Sometimes it’s worse when people avoid the topic all together when all you really needed was, “I can’t possibly know what you are feeling but I just want you to know I am here if you want to talk.”
Tap on any feelings of guilt that you are alive when they aren’t.
Tap on the anger you may still be feeling about the cause of their death and the various significant people such as doctors who didn’t do or say what you feel they should have. Also tap on feelings regarding people that were directly or indirectly involved in say an accident that lead to the death.
Tap on being impatient with yourself for not getting over it sooner. We expect that the grieving process will take a certain period of time and when we feel pain any longer than that we judge ourselves.
The trick with all of these is to be specific, be honest with how you are feeling, and understand that you are healing at your own pace.